Friday, June 05, 2009

Freud & Faith by Richard Beck

Over the past couple of weeks I have been privileged to read Richard Beck's series of writings regarding the psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud and his theories effects on Christian faith in America. These postings are fantastic and I have really enjoyed reading these and contemplating the questions Beck poses. Beck is a professor at Abilene Christian University and operates the blog Experimental Theology. These are well worth your reading.

I am going to post part 5 of this series in its complete form for you to read here and provide links below to the rest of the six-part series. I hope you enjoy:

Freud & Faith: Part 5, The Best Parents in America
We live in an culture, in America at least, that is both child-centric and nurture-obsessed. Interestingly, American Christianity has fully embraced these cultural emphases. American Christianity has made the parental nurture of children its defining witness to the world. This is a strange move to make given Jesus's consistent marginalization of family love. That is, Jesus doesn't place storge (love of family) at the center of his Kingdom vision. Rather, Jesus's focus is on what the Greeks called xenia (love of the stranger/outsider; hospitality). This downplaying of storge in favor of xenia is clearly illustrated in Jesus's teaching. Two examples:

Matthew 5:"You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Luke 14:Then Jesus said to his host, "When you give a luncheon or dinner, do not invite your friends, your brothers or relatives, or your rich neighbors; if you do, they may invite you back and so you will be repaid. But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed. Although they cannot repay you, you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous."
As we reflect on all this, we might ask: Given Jesus's clear and consistent teaching, how did Americans and American Christians come to place so much emphasis on family love?
Some of the answer has to do with Freud.
As noted above, American culture is child-centric. This is a unique cultural stance, historically and globally. Most cultures have tended to place adulthood at the center of culture, especially the elderly. Americans, by contrast, have inverted this widespread emphasis. The elderly in America tend to be marginalized and discounted. The elderly are not deferred to or respected the way they are in other cultures. Rather than respecting old age and wisdom, Americans idolize youthfulness and childhood. The children are our future. They are the prized possessions. Babies are our idols.
Freud was significant in this shift of focus (from Jesus's culture to our own) in that Freud was the first influential thinker to devote significant attention to the role of childhood upon adulthood functioning. Freud's detailed theory of the psychosexual stages of development was unprecedented. Further, Freud detailed the way family relationships between parents, siblings and children can affect development, for good or ill. For Freud, the secret to who I am today is to be found in the past, in the early experiences of family and childhood.
This idea--the child is the father to the man--is so widely held that we fail to note how revolutionary it was when Freud began placing family life under the microscope. True, prior to Freud many acknowledged the importance of childhood. But Freud's analysis and theory revealed just how much could get screwed up during those years. Suddenly, childhood became very, very fragile. Parents could really mess things up. Kids could get ruined very easily.
Overnight, parenthood became a minefield. One had to tread carefully. Kids won't spontaneously recover from bad parenting. Thus, great skill was required. The Better Parenting obsession and industry was born.
Into this mix a uniquely Christian spin was created: Perhaps, in this post-Freudian parenting milieu, Christians could distinguish themselves from "the world" by showing that they love their kids more than anyone else loves their kids. By loving their kids more, by being the best parents in America, Christians might become a witness to the world.
Now, this isn't intrinsically a bad notion. I think it's great that Christians try to be wonderful parents. I know I try. But I think there are some risks to this strategy.
First, it's lopsided. The mass effort to love our kids more and show the world that we are the best parents in America is routinely done at the expense of, well, loving the world. We've replaced xenia with storge. That is, by having Norman Rockwell family meals we often fail to invite the people on the street to our tables. Family life becomes an idol.
Second, by priding ourselves upon being the Best Parents in America we come off as holier-than-thou. That is, on purely pragmatic grounds, the goal of loving our families as a witness to the world just isn't working. We look selfish, self-interested and self-absorbed. Instead of washing the feet of the world we read parenting manuals and pride ourselves on reading bible stories to our kids at night. All good, but annoying to outsiders. We need to do more than this.
In short, Freud was integral in creating new modern emphases, concerns, and neuroses about family and childhood development. We've all, the church included, imbibed these cultural trends. Thus it is important to step back and ask again, "What is the truly counter-cultural move?" How do we, in this post-Freudian climate, embrace robust and healthy families while opening ourselves to lives of hospitality and service to others? How does xenia as well as storge come to typify Christian living?
Because Freud has affected us far more than we've realized.
Posted by Richard Beck
Links to the rest of this Series

3 comments:

Gabrielle Eden said...

That was good and I've always felt this was true. My mother, I have always felt has made a god of family, often putting family before God.

Today, even, she prays for her family - understandable, she has six kids, she has that to think about, it has been her responsibility in life, who can blame her? But so much that is important for a Christian has been sucked up for her because of her obsession with her kids. Even where she could let go of her kids, she lets concern for her kids dominate her thinking.

I have always fought against this in my own life.

I ended up not finding a mate, and never had kids outside of marriage (thank God) so, it looks like I won't be having kids.

I will still probably get married, but no kids.

I feel freer to devote myself to thinking about people's needs.

Isn't this why Paul said it's better not to get married? Because marriage leads to having children, and then one gets all absorbed in just taking care of one's own children.

I would have loved to have children, but I'm just saying that it can be a selfish lifestyle - just thinking about oneself and one's own children.

Gabrielle Eden said...

Don't get that last comment wrong. I appreciate my mom too. She is a wonderful mom, but she just has fallen into the temptation of overdoing it at times.

And I'm not sayind that you can't have kids and care for other people's needs too - it just becomes more difficult to do that....

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